employed, use any free time to enjoy your new community.
Refer to the Advice for Volunteers website for guidance in
selecting a volunteer position and Monster.com for spouse
assistance in the Helpful Websites sidebar.
SUCCESSFULLY RELOCATING YOUR
The majority of relocating families have dependent children. If
you are moving with children, you probably researched schools
before moving; however, personal school visits will transform
the unknown into reality. Visits to new schools to survey the
classrooms and meet teachers will go a long way to allay your,
and your children’s worries about the new environment.
Listen carefully to each child’s concerns—every move can bring
new issues to the surface. Encourage your children to maintain
contact with former friends, even while trying to make new
friends. Exchanging photos, having email access and possibly a
cell phone with a camera feature can help bridge the gap between
old and new friends during the early weeks in a new location.
DEALING WITH CHALLENGES
Keep in mind that every stage and every age can bring new challenges. Children who sailed through the last move could be in an
entirely different place emotionally and physically for this move,
so parents cannot assume that a child will ease into the current
move. Routinely share accomplishments and challenges with
each other and talk about ways to overcome difficulties. Children need to know that even though the parents are responsible
for uprooting them, you both have challenges to face, and you
need to work together as a family to solve them.
The following signs may indicate that children are struggling
with the adjustment: sudden reading difficulties, changes in
attention span or study habits, weight loss or gain, altered enthusiasm or energy levels, strained relationships with you or their
siblings, or disturbed sleep patterns.
Stay closely involved with your children during the early months in a new
location so you know how they are
feeling, what they are thinking and
who their new friends are.
Consider volunteering or get involved
with the school so that you can see
for yourself how your children are
managing. Both adults and children
need the stability and comfort of
established routines, so keep the same
rules, bedtimes, mealtimes, allowances
and expectations that you had before
moving. Refer to the Tips for Settling In
sidebar for more great info to help both
you and the kids.
• Write down three or four goals to achieve
in your new city.
• Continue all your special family celebrations
• Share some of your family’s special recipes
and cultural aspects with new
acquaintances and neighbors.
• Keep a log of new experiences and
• Give everyone in the family manageable
moving chores (taking care of practical
matters will take the edge off homesickness).
• Join an athletic or special interest group.
• Get involved in community and/or religious
organizations, especially those that sponsor
activities, volunteer efforts and programs for
• Learn about the local government, issues
• Most importantly, be patient and take
one day at a time.
American Medical Association
American School Directory
National Association of Child Care Resource
and Referral Agencies
Elder Care Locator
American Animal Hospital Association
www.healthypet.com Hospital Locator
Advice for Volunteers
Parents Without Partners, Inc.